"Living in a house where solitude knew all my secrets" would be the way.
As a rule of thumb, even when we "feature" such abstracts ideas/emotions/perceptions as a living thing, we don´t use "the", unless we are mentioning an specific emotion/perception etc, e.g. The emotion of someone.
Anger is an awful adviser.
Apaty is an awful adviser.
Anger management involves skills of recognizing the signs of anger and taking action to deal with the situation in a positive way. It does not mean holding the anger in or avoiding angry feelings. Anger is a normal, healthy emotion when expressed appropriately.
(holding the anger - would be about the specific anger of yours/one´s anger).