All right, let’s get a little controversial here today.
I just saw on the news that a 17-year-old girl had been beaten up by her 21-year-old husband and was in a coma.
My question is, why does this still happen and what could be a feasible solution to this problem? Are women to blame? Are men to blame? Should there be stricter laws against it?
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I think that we should have more strict laws and educate the people, because this problem is very serious. Women suffer with this there are many years and the government doesn’t make new laws or campaign to educate the people.
The politicians must have more attention to this problem.
Hellow, good morning people!
Violence against women, this is horrible. Is difficult to accept that this still exists.
In my opinion, she will accept the guilty be married to a person. I know that fight between couples happens more with violence?
I’m married too, but I hope that never happen with me.
Sorry, this is my opinion.
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If you buy a household appliance, probably you will read its manual to know how to use it well. If you go to a unknown place, to consult a map it’s the righteous to do.
So, why don’t people prepare to get married? The marriage’s manual is the bible. The Bible advice us: “The married… will have tribulation on their flesh.” (1 Corinthians 7:28) It’s not easy to live with other person. Even so when we are not prepared to do it. When you are young, at most of cases, you aren’t ready to establish a new family!
Human laws should to punish violent people. However, God’s laws avoid problems like all kind of violence. “If only you would actually pay attention to my commandments! Then your peace would become just like a river, and your righteousness like the waves of the sea.” (Isaiah 48:18)
This is not a women problem only. We stumble on these cases every single day and we can see families ruined. Under my point of view the home violence is a serious problem that must be banished of our lives. Of course there’s a cultural meaning behind all those scenes of violence that must be reviwed. It’s not just a governamental problem to solve, but a social behavior that shoud be faced courageously, each one doing what must be done with responsability.
If women are mercilessly exploited year after year, they have only themselves to blame.
Ok. This is very important topic, but I think I have no opinion about this. Why do I have no opinion about it ? Because I can`t believe there is still such thing that a man can do to a woman as many other things that I can`t believe such as, Sexual violence, Muders….Why do we do this to ourselves ? Wouldn`t be better if we could live in peace without all these terrible things ?
Hello guys!
I think there is a solution to this problem is Education. A good education on school would avoid lots of problems like violence, unemployment, prostitution and more.
Its up to us to change it
Hi
It´s horrible… It´s difficult to accept that and I think the blame is of the education gaves by parents, sometimes, the women are to educate to do all for her husband, without answers and she accepts the phisical violence as part of the your life “He is mad but He loves me”, complain the women.. The woman feels shy about this and many times She doesn´t search help and lives this way until bigger tragedy to happen…
The parents need to learn boys and girls since little one to respect each other, I think this is the way…
Thais.. FROM MASSACHUSETTS/USA
I Think if man, whant call his a man, he don’t never beat in a woman.
Man in most part of time has more strong than a woman.
Sorry my horrible english, cause I am improve now it, with a private teacher.
Hi fellows!
Yeah! To hurt a woman (both phisically and emotionally) is something repugnat! It’s incredible that in 2010 still exists cowards who beat women! Like some people say: “You don’t hit a woman even with a petal of rose” (I think I can say like that…)
See you!
Well, I really was sad for her, but it’s fault of the govern. The education have to be give at home, so as say the old “ditado”:
What you make at home you make at ‘praça’.
sorry for my english, I begin 3 months ago.
It’s difficult to believe that these things still happen and unfortunately the cases number are increasing.
It’s true that many women are reacting against the violence and denouncing their partners. However lots of women, specially at the country side, don’t have enough information and support from their families to reacting and many suffer until the death.
In my point of view we need stricter laws and programs that help these women giving information, assistance and encouraging them leave their husbands.
I guess it like a terrible crime, The men involved are all cowards.
I ‘ve heard in the news a soccer player from Flamengo ( goleiro), Bruno saying: ” é normal sair na mão com a mulher..”
I think vilence against women as pedophilia don’t deserve pardon and the laws must be strict and demanding .
Never let them off .
Hii
Although it happens a lot nowadays. I believe that women must have the courage to denounce and justice has to apply a penalty to men.
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All kinds os violence against anyone is absurd, but first of all, I believe that we must build a virtuous circle on this, because we have a thin line between physical and psycological violence.
The both are very bad
And the difference is how or when we can see thse mark
This kind of social problem will only be solved when people finally realize the roots of it: our moral. It won’t be solved with more laws and punishment, i’m pretty sure that the point here is proper education. Human education, actually. Values like respect and self-knowledge are almost forgotten and its meaning is not rightly known in our times. It depends on how animal or passional we still are in our behaviours.
It is an issue that concerns to our souls, we gotta renew human’s heart.
Well, I think this issue is very complicated, because I can not understand how a woman keeps a relationship with such men. In my opinion, relationships should be 50% reason and 50% emotion, not with 100% emotion and it is very important for us to see our partner every day and always with eyes to see, in a rational and not just heart.
Women usually can not do that
In my opinion the problem are education. I mean, the education you receive from you parents. These kind of men have no respect for women. I think the blame are the men and the education they have received.
I guess there isn’t a blame. I believe that the what is missing is consiencia, because don’t like more, separates and each one will live your life.
I think that don’t need this degradation of the human.
I can’t believe in a situation like this! It’s very sad to know that there are still women who has this kind of destiny. Sometimes I make the question to myself, is it worth to fall in love for a guy?
What do you think?
It seems to me that a very serious problem. Of course to live together, it´s not easy task. Both sides have to cede, not there is winner or loser. There is a family, sometimes there are childrens envolved inside this context. If you married by love, you have to know how listen and talk to this special person that you make choosen. First of all It´s necessary the God´s presence in your life. After this, calm and patience in extra doses, your family´s support, and love… too much love
Ok, I think that women has a fear to expose his life and definetely they have fear if were put her feelings to the other people, like a friend or police, the man can kill her really …
The most important is the fear. In Brazil we have stricter laws, but I think that EDUCATION is the solution. People need to understand about respect himself and each other. To understand what are your limit.
I agree with my colleague Jonatã. The bible is the guide to a happy life. If the couple listen the bible advice, most problems will be more easy to deal with.
I think all those violent and agressive guys, especially against women, should be arrested, and stay very long time in jail…
Hello people!
In my opinion the problems are to show a lack of respect between the man and the woman. I believe that we should have more strict laws.
See you!
I think that we don´t have to put the blame only upon one of them. These things happen, because there´s not love between them so if there´s no good feelings, why are the together? So a brutal act will happen, because if you don´t love, you hate. On the other side, the punishment for this kind of “crime” isn´t strict enough to make people stop with this kind of atitude.
Physical violence should never be used, neither against women nor against men. That is totally unacceptable. Everyone should be able to discuss anything in a civilized or sensible way because ultimately that is what distinguish us human beings or “rational animals” from all the other species. We need more quality education, not only in this country, but throughout the world
Hello friends,
I believe that problem is very serious. This always happened in every social classes, but I think that we can’t to accept violence against women or any kind of person.
I’m married, and never did this.
Thank you, see you!
I think, girl and husband very young. They weren’t preparing for weed life.
It´s a very hard situation to face in life, there are laws for this kind of behavior but women should pay more atention on men before get married. We can see their behavior with their mothers, sisters e women in general. Most times they show small signs that they are agressive but the chemical of passion don´t allow us to see…pitty.
I think that most women accept husbands´violence because they do not have means to survive by themselves by lack of education, lack of work, etc….
The government should be care of education of young and also old people that didn´t have opportunity of attending a school.
Congratulations for this matter. Sorry for mistakes.
BYE
the divorce ….
and hard to see so much violence, I think that when a marriage not going well and better each seeking his corner.
before the worst happens …
a relationship for be perfect there must be dialogue.
I think there is no law for it, he will do the same thing always…
e. my opinion … the Separation
if you have children stay with their mother and she will take care … I took care of 3 children and now I am happy …
have 3 wonderful children, 2 son- in-law who are like sons to me ..
and one wonderful granddaughter of 3 years …
kisses
Hi, I’m Maria
How nice! I am loving your typs and that I am learning a lot…
keeo it up!
Any kind of violence is a problem… but when you choose someone to spend all your life you are considering that he/she is the love of your life… but it’s complicated because sometimes you don’t know this person, we don’t know weselves… and a relationship needs more things than love, care and attention… people nowadays need God.
I think we need stricter laws too, because we can see many free people that commited several mistakes like that.
In this case, I think that they were too youngers… maybe missed too maturity, because marriage is a issue that should be thought and examineted before happens.
PLEASE! COULD SOMEONE CORRECT MY TEXT? THANK YOU VERY MUCH!
The violence against woman is a social problem. So each of us must do your part to solve this problem. If we are violent when something bad happens we are leaving a bad instance to children to follow. We need to be pacific in our day by day.
The violence against woman is a social problem. So each one of us must do your part to solve this problem. If we are violent when something bad happens we are leaving a bad instance to children to follow. We need to be pacific in our day by day.
Reallly… it is very serious and dangerous. What is happening with the human being?….the prayers and to believe in GOD are the solution, ….forever! Don”t forget it! This is my hope.
tks and rgds,
Very good answers, folks.
Women are not always victims. Many of them have very “doubtful” attitudes. In any way, there’s never a reason for anyone to act like this $%%*##@*&¨% guy. Even if she did something wrong, he simply lost his reason. A man who is not man enough to “hold the reins” of his own marriage cannot be even considered a Man. He is a dumb idiot who may never have anyone’s respect anymore.
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Jonatã (comment #3): I loved your words. Thank you very much.
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beijos e mais uma vez parabéns pelo trabalho.
In my opinion, this is a very serius topic. The women has afraid to denounce their husbands.
We can’t forget, that not happen just with the women, but with men and childreen too.
I think we need start talking to our childreen, teaching them respect for others.
It missing to the people, love, comprehension, respect, values, and God in their hearts.
unfortunately these things still happen and as each social or cultural problem its solutions must be thought in the short and long term. Treating this subject in classroom is one way to modify this reality in a long term. No doubt, stricter laws are the only one way to punish who commits this crime. But we have to believe that dialogue is the best way to straighten it out.
bye!
I think that all women have to denounce this kind of violence.
This is absurd, they should be arrested, violence against women is for men who have no sense of ridiculous, but much men make this because the women no denounces, arrive at the delegacy and do not finish the denounces.
This kind of things happens just because, what is faulting to the world is LOVE.
If each one loves his next anyone would be raped, beaten or hurt.
A guy who beats up or kills anyone deserves longer terms in jail, says this non-death penalty supporter.
Hello everyone,
Violence is not new for no one.
This happen in all world any time any place, parents with sons, wife and husband, friends..
This still happen for so many reasons: arguments, people drink to much, different opnions and of course because people have a serious mental problem (in most of the time they don’t realize).
Are laws for this situation but stiil happen till people change their mind and their way to live.
What we can change? How we can help?
The fault of the two.
I think that the problem is love, the mankind is losing its love. If i love then I will not hurt anyone because to love means, tolerance, believe and wait. If i love me and love someone I will not destroy him because i don’t want to be destroyed too.
It is still happening because the majority of girls are not knowing choose their partners. These girls only gives value to boys´ faces. Only if his faces is beautiful. They are forgetting to make a fully analize of their partners. Is needed to know about his family, about his past, if his past was violent or something like that. I think should be that way.
Hii
How are you?
I think that all women have to denounce this kind of violence.
See youu!!!
I think stricter laws won’t solve this because they don’t deal with the cause of the problem. We’re seeing family values, which used to be strong a while ago, becoming weaker year by year. I think family must be restored before we see real progress in this area.
I think the problem is still present because there is still “… acceptance that man can do anything with his wife.” (P. 14; Donna Magazine, Zero Hora newspaper, RS), which unfortunately says a Cuban’s woman on the news about women and their lives around the world.
I can not understand why women accept to live with violent men nowadays! Are weak and without self-esteem, they can get a job and get rid of this situation!
It’s very hard answer this question, because the violence is inside human being. This won’t to say that we must accept without reaction
In Brazil have Maria Penha’s law.
A woman must be treat with affection and respect always. Because they are very special.
Well, that’s a very serious problem that has been occuring throughout the country. There should be stricter laws against it for sure, however I don’t think any of them (men and women) are to blame. The problem comes from the education children have at home. Unfortunately, that’s not easy to change at all. So I can’t think of any feasible solution to this, but love and believing and following Jesus steps. I guess that’s the only way to change the world – people have got to learn how to love. That’s my humble opinion. =D Thanks for reading! ;)
I think so there should be stricter laws agains i.
For it is still unacceptable today, this fact aconter.
The women are to blame, when they lose their self steen. is dowed to be insulted and no long respect her husband.
The men are blame, they lose their reason for attacking their wives
Hi EE,
I think this is horrible and the women should denounce.
See you.
I’m not sure if new strict laws will fix the problem. That kind of stuff seems to envolve modern psicological disturbs that have been spread over our society.
I think these things just will finish with punished law’s more hards!
In Brazil with Maria da Penha’s Law, the women are more safe and have more support to report the violence agaist them. They don’t have to accept this from anyone!
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and i have just a little knowledge about english, so… if i’m writing the wrong way, please correct me!
about the notice!
lI think the man who did it deserve to die !
Unfortunately it still happens every day ! The main problem is the poor law. Every day I see sad news about violence against women and children and I got angry because they just don’t do anything to stop such a problem. People claim for justice, but nothing is done to refrain violence. How long have we wait for peace ? I hope one day it happens !
I think any tipe of violence shoud be punish, because this was a babaro way to live. And I think on these days this live can´t be allowed any more.
Hi,
I think the necessary changes must begin at Home, in the Creation of the children, the lessons of life. It is common to see adults, parents, relatives told stories of misguided the children. How can we expect them to behave? If we stimulate the violence: in movies, TV programs in general and in informal conversations, how can we stop the violence, to insert in our daily life? I think we need to change our personal principles, perhaps we can recognize that all are children of God, free and masters of their free will and can live peacefully.
See You all!
The problem begin in the childhood. If parents do not instruct their children that they shouldn’t hurt anyone (men or women) things like this happen. And I also think that the government is blame, for not give protection to these women and do not punish the men who doess this kind of thing!
Olá!
Sei que estou atrasada quanto a esse assunto, mas gostaria de saber se o”curso de inglês para tímidos terminou na lição número 20 mesmo.
Amei esse trabalho e não gostaria de perder nenhuma lição.
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Karmen,
O curso de inglês para tímidos vai até a lição 25 e depois daremos continuidade no curso pelo fórum.
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The feasible solution woud be the people understand that only prettiness, it’s not enough for a lasting relationship.
Living free from violence is a human right.
Unfortunatelly, yet millions of women and girls around the world encounter rape, domestic abuse, mutilation and other forms of violence.It is missing love among the people to heal the world……REMEMBER ME MICHAEL JACKSON “a better world …for you and for me”.
take care friends, tks EE
I agree with Marc when he says “that kind of stuff seems to envolve modren psicological disturbs that have been spread over our society”. In my opinion both need a psicological treatment.
See you.
I think both are guilty.
One among three women in the world is injured by some type of aggression. Most of cases the aggression is committed by someone of the family. However, women don’t report it for fear and violent men continue having this behavior because they know that nothing will change. Women should denounce when they suffer any kind of aggression, but should also receive protection and psychological help, and so does the aggressor.
It is a mixture of love and fear!
Hello folks,
I guess it happens because the weak law at Brazil. So, the women feel afraid to denounce these bad and ignorant men.
That’s it.
In the first place I’d like to say that it depends on the person background. However, in my opnion, stricter laws would also be necessary. This is totally sexist! Men just can’t beat women up. Women are not just a thing that you pick up and get married – it’s more than owning them… it’s about loving then.
Nevertheless, women can’t take advantage of this situation and think they can insult their husband. This is all about a balance in the relationship.
Yet, the best way to solve a misunderstood between couples – or friends, whatever – is talking, talking and talking.
Keep up the good work!
Laws about this topic were already made. What have to be done when this happen is to denounce.
The man probably hurted this girl many other times, but she stayed with him, maybe because she was afraid of him. But other people were probably seeing what was happening.
The people have to do something, take the responsability for themselves.
Any woman assaulted physically or morally, should have the courage to denounce the offender, because in so doing it are protecting against future attacks, and serves as an example for other women, because as long as the concealment of crime suffered, we will not find solutions to the problem.The population the Government should require strict law firm, does not help delude themselves that this is a problem without solution. Once raped, she may never again be the same as before, your life will be lined with fear and shame, without self-esteem, no longer a member of the community to live in their own mundo.A freedom and justice, are and one that requires essential conditions for it to flourish, no one lives alone. The happiness of a person is in love and be loved. We must cultivate life, denouncing all kinds of abuses.
I’m Back here
And in the middle of this subject who let’s just say do not cheer up anybody!
But I think that the situation is badly not just here in our country but around the world, It would be very greatful if man treat woman how they deserve ..They just don’t know the bad they are doing It’s a shame to know that kind of thing and know that it happen everyday in this great planet that man are destroying piece by piece.
Respect is the word who that type of person must know and it’s feasible to get stricter laws.
So…I feel sad when I’m read about cases of violence against women. Actually our culture has been changed, but men still have a tiny mind. I used to see that in the most of cases the wife shut up her mouth setting free her husband. But why? She hurts but wants to protect her children. Anyway… Nowadays we have laws and support to these women. They don’t know? It missed information?
The feasible solution woud be the people understand that only prettiness, it’s not enough for a lasting relationship.
I found the text very interesting, you guys are awesome!
In Brazil is not necessary more laws. In these days we have Maria da Penha’s law which is the Strongest weapon to inhibit violence against women. In other hand we see women which denounces their partners but in the next day the accusation is removed. So women need to get conscious they should to require that right. It’s a really controversial theme.
As far as i’m concerned, women who suffers with violence in their home might depend on their husbands to do everything.
In general, they stop studing when get married, having lots of babies without any sensible planning and get used to spend all their time doing housework what makes them not able to afford anything needed.
Therefore, i can understand why they simply don’t leave the agressors when the very first episode of disrespect happen.
Although there are laws against this kind of behavior, it’s not so common to see wives doing reports about being beaten untill it’s too late to police act.
It’s undeniable that children must be raised in well-structered enviroment, learning to deal with responsabilities and to see themselves above others skin, but in poor conditions – like these – it’s not the true reality.
Adir, Alessandro e o restante da equipe EE,
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ops, onde está “above” eu quis dizer “below”… sempre confundo
I think the two are guilty for leaving one or marry a madman (which poi guilt in women) but I think the blame is also for men who still think they own the world.
The violence against people,not only womens it´s terrible.In this case if the man beat a woman he is guilty.
Queria agradecer ao Adir Ferreira por este curso de ingles para tímidos!!realmente maravilhoso!parábens^^
I think the problem is because the people don’t look and leave our troubles to God. A dash of religion would not hurt anyone
In the first place a Government needs to be HONEST. There should be then hard penalties to criminals. Who is no good to humanity should be destroyed. It is not good to have thousands of penitentiaries to keep bad people. The money wasted with them should be applied in Health and Education.
I think both are wrong in this case. Yes, the laws must be stricter
There is In Brazil this Maria Penha’s law, but it’s just showed us when a woman is killed by her husband or boyfriend.
What the world needs is love, or better, GOD.
Hi
Here in Brazil have Maria da Penha’s law, but I think we women need more attencion from police with cases against us.
Sorry…. against us
I think that in Brazil we have already laws to cover that situation. The problem is that the women have fear of denounce their own husband.
There should be more effective programs that protect them and make them more confortable to go and speak with authorities.
in my opinion, the woman has a responsability too, because there are women a lot that don’t speak out against the partner or delay do it when this kind of situation happen
Without education and love, the humanity will walk adrift.
Although We have laws to advise and to penalize, We don’t till discovery the way of peace.
I Think that the man for to beat in women is a rubbish. Education and to punish maybe is the better situation in this case. But this problem is more bigger in the poor country than in best ecomically. Therefore, education and social iguality maybe are solution.
I think to solve this problem, the penalty imposed must be very severe. And live, for all to see, As in the past, in the public square.
So the performer would think many times before making such things.
I think the aggression against women a cowardly aggression. Men coward who should die in jail.
Violence is a problem in the day of today. Punish severe maybe is better in this case
Hello,
My opinion is that if all the women there would be less denounce criminals like this.
Maria da Penha’s law represents an undeniable juridical advance. That law inhibits the violence, punishes the criminal and benefits the woman who is victim of domestic violence through government’s social programs.
The problem is that a lot of women don’t denounce the violence because of shame, fear to expose themselves or fear of threats.
The only solution to this problem is the denunciation.
Culture, social class, impunity, ignorance: nothing justifies violence against women. That
is a crime and, consequently, who commits it must be punished.
Well, Hello for all!
This is a delicated situation. To find an way to solve the problems, first of all is, with no doubt, find out the solution.
Actually it should be used for all! Should be evaluated “Why does she is with him yet?!
There is one thing inside ourself and it call: RESPECT FOR OURSELF!
All the human have the conception to check if the girlfriend or boyfriend are normal in psychological conditions or not!
I hope everybody have understood my view point!
Thanks for all!
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